Facebook bisexuals. MySpace lesbians. Predominantly straight in every day life, these girls are the ones that begin making out with other girls when under the influence of alcohol, or even just in a looser club setting, mostly for the benefit of any boys that happen to be watching, or to show how “wild” they are. There are many bisexuals who scorn these girls as not being truly bisexual and giving a bad name to those who are.
I myself am of two different minds. Part of me is giving a big thumbs up to flouting societal conventions and enjoying freer love. I think that our society is far too prudish and that there’s absolutely nothing wrong with enjoying sexual activity between two (or three, or more) consenting adults.
However, another (perhaps larger) part of me is irritated at the continual objectification of girl on girl love. There is nothing wrong with sharing intimacies between two members of the same sex. The thing that bothers me is the girls who do it for the attention of others and only for the attention of others. These same girls don’t hang all over their boy friends (friends of the male sex, not to be confused with boyfriends), don’t make out with them in public with the slightest amount of alcohol in their systems for the attention, and don’t generally make a scene with them. It seems like a horribly unfair double standard. Girls using other girls for the attention of others are the ultimate objectification of girls loving girls.
Here’s what I have to say to all the Facebook bisexuals out there: if you like girls and identify as bi, pansexual, queer, open, or what have you, awesome for you. Be happy with whom you are. Go ahead and keep kissing on your casual girlfriends, but don’t just wait until there’s an audience. To the ones who are straight and would never countenance any lesbian activity without the help of alcohol or peer pressure: have some self respect. Don’t contribute to the objectification of women. Don’t turn yourself into a toy for the pleasing of others (unless you’re into D/s, in which case I don’t think any of this will be an issue). If you truly just relish the attention, but really don’t like girls that much, well, that’s what porn is for; just keep in mind that you can’t have any “liquid courage” to get you going.
And to all: go to clubs to have a good time and don’t worry about impressing anyone else!
Wonderfully written and insightful!! I liked what you had to say very much. Luv ya girl!!! MUAH!!! XOXOXO
ReplyDeleteI read this several times and can only conclude that you are correct in this. I noticed this more and more even in our rural area.
ReplyDeleteI'm all for sexual experimentation but most of it seems to be for show or shock value to me.
If you are going to do it go someplace private and enjoy the experience.